One of the early topics discussed in the book is about “caring about less things”. Although this initially sounds abrasive and perhaps detrimental to being a good person, it has validity. As with everything in the book, the author explained the reasoning behind this very directly: you simply cannot care about everything, and many things aren’t worth caring about, so don’t. Constantly worrying about things that don’t matter takes time away from caring about the things that do, so you need to choose what is important and care just about that. It sounds weird to say that you shouldn’t care about things, but it makes sense to not care about trivial things that don’t matter and to get them off your mind.
Another topic that stood out to me in the book was that our values determine our metrics of success. At this stage in my life, my metric of success is largely tied to finishing school and earning my degree, which is a stepping stone to finding a job I enjoy that pays well. Someone else might have that same end goal but is working toward it purely from work experience or some other avenue. We each value different things in this situation; I value an education, whereas they value experience. The important thing regarding our differences is that we don’t think of each other as being less successful for not following the path we each believe is better (we shouldn’t even care what the other thinks in the first place, because it isn’t important) or consider ourselves less successful for not sharing their values.
Lastly, hearing that, by definition, not everyone can be extraordinary was refreshing. I’ve learned to accept that I am not and will likely not be the best at any specific thing, which is okay. That alone takes off a lot of unnecessary pressure.